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If you watch much TV or go to the movies you will no doubt get to see some display of glorified romance. It seems that, even in an action movie, the romance is part of the ultimate experience. Of course the idea of marriage rarely ever makes an appearance. The very idea of staying clothed until after marriage seems barbaric by today's standards. James Bond is the romance (sex) expert. Maybe people want to make sure the romance (sex) is good before they commit. Romance (sex) seems to be the most important thing around. Of course, no one wants to admit how much their decisions have been effected by the romance (sex) in their lives; but the results speak for themselves. I don't mean that romance is always a bad thing; some do just fine with it. But how many of us have not been affected by divorce? There are plenty of unwanted pregnancies, teen and sometimes even pre-teen pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and single parent families. In America AIDS affects almost a million people and in developing countries the number is around 4 million. All of these problems beget other problems like orphans and poverty, depression and illegal drug use, domestic violence, prostitution and stealing. Yeah, some people would attract those things even with smart and cohesive families; but I wonder how much the moral condition truly has affected our lives. Our family is our support system when we have trouble and trouble is easy to come by. Our children seem to have a lot of pressure to conform to the teen romance date while some people awe and ooh like it's cute. The young heart thinks if it just gets married all the problems in the world will disappear but then they are not thinking about how they will live and pay for the necessities.
So how do we parents help our children to have a chance at making smarter decisions? They know how imperfect we are and they sometimes question our judgment. That's where the bible can help. If we demonstrate that we agree with the bible and we put forth the effort to apply it in our lives they will have the opportunity to see the benefit. It provides a standard that is not from an imperfect parent. Parents can demonstrate that they don't always rely on their own understanding. An example we probably want our kids to follow.
The bible's values may seem out of date by today's standards but there are some excellent benefits to be had. One good way to get started is just to read a little bit of the bible every day. If you really want to get a good bible education I highly recommend a study with Jehovah's Witnesses. It is free after all and they are not hard to find.
Just a couple of family values from the bible:
1 Thessalonians 4:3 - 5>
3 For this is what God wills, the sanctifying of you, that you abstain from fornication; 4 that each one of you should know how to get possession of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in covetous sexual appetite such as also those nations have which do not know God;
11 Fornication and wine and sweet wine are what take away good motive